6 Smart Steps to Get Her Back in Your Life

If you have recently been through a breakup or divorce,
then we are here to get you out and get you back with
your sweetheart. We are sure that the last few months
might have seemed miserable to you and your world
would have gone upside down. Nothing would seem to
work for you anymore, your colleagues start rolling
eyes over your back and you seem helpless and find
salvation in alcohol. But guys, this is definitely not the
time for it, and obviously this is not the way to get her
back. How about trying to get her back? How about
making her realise that you were just the right person
for her? Well, read on to know the answers.
1.
Take some time off
Firstly, you need a break from her and she too needs
time to analyse her emotions. And yes, all those bottles
of beer must be cleaned out from your life and your
overgrown beard has to be trimmed back. Take a
sabbatical from work and go to any calm and relaxing
place. This will help you lay off some of your excess
emotional baggage. This will also help you to get a
perspective on things before you make efforts to 'win'
her heart again.
2. Make contact
After few months of being apart, it is time to make the
move. Make the first contact. Calling her would bring
up more emotions and mess up things, while texting is
too amateur. Look for unconventional way to surprise
her. Send her a handwritten letter to establish the first
contact. In the letter, ask about her present life and
throw in a casual suggestion about meeting at some
place. Or, meet her casually at any place that she visits
often. This will clearly be a nice surprise for her and
will give you a small emotional edge. She will become
inquisitive and curious and will definitely look forward
to meet you.
3. Be calm and casual
Setting up the ground to meet is very tricky. Expensive
dinner reservations will pull you off to be desperate
while a movie will look cliché. Think different and be
blatantly casual. Take her out to a place of her interest
like an art gallery or a museum or take her to an old
food alley where she used to eat chicken burgers during
her college days. This will help you ace the meeting,
and will keep her thinking while returning home.
Remember not to get too emotional, needy, or desperate
while talking to her. First meeting is not the time to
bring up old wounds and issues.
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4. Keep on meeting her
Keep on arranging these casual meets more frequently.
If she agrees to come then you can hold your hopes
high. Try to be absolutely casual, yet prove to her that
you have changed a lot since the split and have become
more matured. This will help to keep her on the edge
and will accelerate the patch up process.
5. The right move at the right time
After a few of the casual meet offs it is finally the time
to hammer the nail. Wait for her birthday or any special
occasion of her life, to meet her and make her realise
how much you love her. If you are giving her a present,
it should be apt and most perfect. Chocolates, flowers
are for kids, jewellery or makeup kits worked some
twenty years back. At this point, go completely out of
the ordinary way. Maybe a photograph she long
cherished but forgot or maybe a handloom box that you
gave her on your first anniversary or maybe a pendant
she used to love but was broken. Present her with
something with which she has an old emotional string
attached. It will make her completely emotionally
vulnerable and would show her how much you care
about her emotions. If you can nail this move perfectly,
she will be running faster than Usain Bolt back to your
arms.
6. Do the work
After all the patch-up hugs and kisses are over, let go
off the ego and start afresh. Talk with each other about
things which were to be mended long before. Make her
understand that you are not the man she left. And yes,
do not forget to propose to her once again, just like you
did (or not) the very first time.
However tough it might seem, love will always find a
way, no matter what adversities stray in each other's
ways. Just the right moments and the right ways will
not only make her come back to you but also cement
your relationship to a much stronger bond, a more
perfect bond, and turn it into a journey more pleasant
than it had been for all the years gone by.
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