3 Reasons You’re Still Single

Beliefs you hold from the past
that limit your present life/lifestyle are probably
holding you back
If you are a strong, successful woman who's been
lacking a healthy, fulfilling relationship, chances are
there are a few reasons why you may feel like you're
still single.
Limiting beliefs — beliefs you hold from the past that
are limiting your present life and lifestyle — are some
of the biggest reasons why people don't get what they
want. If you find yourself successful in some areas in
life (like your career) but not so successful in others
(like LOVE), you may need to step back and think
about the reasons you think you might be single.
Are these any of your reasons for why you're single?
● It's hard to meet good men where I live.
● Good guys all want younger women!
● Good guys want to be with me because I'm successful
and they want me to take care of them.
● Men are actually intimidated by strong, independent
women.
● My town is full of guys I don't want to be with.
The good news is, you're not alone. The bad news is
that limiting beliefs like the ones above are just that:
LIMITING. They'll prevent you from meeting your
man, meeting good men (and they do exist!) and
prevent you from being happy.
If you've lived through one of the above beliefs and
that experience is your evidence that it's an absolute
truth (rather than simply YOUR truth based on that
experience), it's easy (and convenient) to assume that it
is the absolute TRUTH. In fact, when you hold on to
these beliefs as THE TRUTH, you're essentially living
in the past–which makes it impossible for you to be in
the moment and get to your exciting future.
So how can you change these beliefs so that you can be
on your way to meeting those good guys who live in
your city and want to date a strong, successful woman
like yourself?
1.
Remember a time when you met a man who was
interested in you. Remember that he was interested in
YOU, not your money, or that he thought you were too
old. Reflect on that. Simply asking yourself "How true
is that belief, REALLY?" can help you realize that it
isn't an absolute. This wake-up call question can bring
you back to the present and the understanding that it's
not an absolute truth.
2. The past is the past. Just because you met ONE man
who was interested in dating younger women, it doesn't
mean that ALL men are interested in dating younger
women. There's a b*tt for every chair; you just have to
find the right one for you.
In fact, if you hold on to your need to be right about
your limiting belief, it may actually keep you stuck in
attracting exactly what you don't want. You'll continue
to draw proof of your beliefs to you, making you right.
The question to ask yourself is "Do I want to be right,
or do I want to be happy?" Stop dragging the past into
every interaction. Create new rules for yourself, then
live into them each day.
3. Remind yourself that a belief isn't necessarily a
universal truth. Maybe you have friends in your peer
group in successful relationships. How on Earth did
they find love if there are NO GOOD MEN where you
live? Collecting evidence of why your limiting beliefs
only serve to keep you safe and stuck is critical to
letting them go. Remember, you can't simply think
your way out of your thoughts; getting where the core
belief came from and then disproving it will be
essential to changing your beliefs for the long term.
Start throwing your beliefs out the window, one by
one. Take a risk. Don't immediately assume that a guy
who wants to date you wants to be with you because of
your income level. Let someone be interested in you.
Be interested in him. Let situations unfold. Let go of
control.
Explore what life looks like with a new set of beliefs,
and you'll soon find that the positive, happy and
confident YOU will start collecting evidence of those
new beliefs–beliefs that will ultimately put you in the
path of Mr. Right sooner rather than later.
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