The 10 Marriage Commandments You Should Know.
As we get caught up in day-
to-day living, it's easy to forget the basic behaviors that
can mean the difference between a successful marriage
and a floundering one. Every marriage is as unique as
the people living it. But there are some universal
commandments that can make every marriage better.
Whether you're a newlywed or a veteran spouse, here
are 10 marriage commandments that will help you stay
in love, deepen your connection, and bring peace to
your household.
1. Thou shalt show respect. Every individual deserves
respect. In a marriage, it is never appropriate to demean
your spouse, and physical violence is never ever
acceptable in any relationship. If your marriage is
disintegrating into squabbling and fighting, remember
that sometimes it's better to be happy than to be right.
2. Thou shalt be affectionate. The quickest way to pep
up a marriage is to throw in a little love. Just being in
close physical proximity to your spouse can take your
relationship from meh to marvelous. Hold hands, kiss
your spouse goodbye and hold on a little longer when
you hug.
3. Thou shalt communicate. Your spouse has a lot of
wonderful qualities, but he or she has never been and
will never be a mind reader. Chances are, your spouse
wants to give you the world, but you'll have to tell him
or her what you need. Own your feelings and be honest
about emotions.
4. Thou shalt forgive. Ruth Bell Graham famously said,
"A good marriage is the union between two good
forgivers." We all make mistakes. Yet sometimes those
mistakes hurt the person we love the most — our
spouse. Be generous and forgiving when your spouse
makes a mistake and your spouse will be more quick to
forgive your indiscretions.
5. Thou shalt be kind. We have a mantra in our house:
kind words, soft answers. Think back to how you spoke
to your spouse when you were still dating and aim to
keep that kind communication throughout your entire
marriage.
6. Thou shalt be appreciative. Make a conscious choice
to let go of little annoyances and devote more mental
energy to thinking about all the things you love about
your spouse. Your spouse does a lot for you; let him
know that you are appreciative.
7. Thou shalt be loyal. Adultery is the quickest way to
kill a marriage. Protect your marriage by avoiding the
slippery slope toward infidelity. In our world of
constant contact through cell phones and social media,
keep all your interactions innocent. If you're not sure if
your behavior is appropriate imagine how you would
feel if your spouse was engaging in the same behavior.
8. Thou shalt find balance. Cultivate friendships and
hobbies that complement but are not dependent upon
your marriage. At the same time, spend quality time
with your spouse every day. You'll be a better spouse if
you are a well-rounded person.
9. Thou shalt be honest. It's never OK to lie to your
spouse, even if the lie seems inconsequential at the
time. No good ever came from lying.
10. Thou shalt make decisions together. Avoid major
marital drama by coming up with a game plan for life
as a couple. All major decisions, including jobs, homes,
children, and how to spend money, need to be agreed
upon by both parties. In an equal marriage, both
spouses should feel that their opinion is valuable and
carries weight.
Marriage is not a one-time commitment but rather a
daily choice to love your spouse the best you can. Just
as the original 10 commandments teach us morality,
developing a set of commandments for your marriage
allows you to love your spouse more fully. Sit down
with your spouse and take some time to discuss the
values you honor in your marriage. Agreeing on your
own set of marriage commandments will keep you on
the path to a lasting and fulfilling marriage.
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to-day living, it's easy to forget the basic behaviors that
can mean the difference between a successful marriage
and a floundering one. Every marriage is as unique as
the people living it. But there are some universal
commandments that can make every marriage better.
Whether you're a newlywed or a veteran spouse, here
are 10 marriage commandments that will help you stay
in love, deepen your connection, and bring peace to
your household.
1. Thou shalt show respect. Every individual deserves
respect. In a marriage, it is never appropriate to demean
your spouse, and physical violence is never ever
acceptable in any relationship. If your marriage is
disintegrating into squabbling and fighting, remember
that sometimes it's better to be happy than to be right.
2. Thou shalt be affectionate. The quickest way to pep
up a marriage is to throw in a little love. Just being in
close physical proximity to your spouse can take your
relationship from meh to marvelous. Hold hands, kiss
your spouse goodbye and hold on a little longer when
you hug.
3. Thou shalt communicate. Your spouse has a lot of
wonderful qualities, but he or she has never been and
will never be a mind reader. Chances are, your spouse
wants to give you the world, but you'll have to tell him
or her what you need. Own your feelings and be honest
about emotions.
4. Thou shalt forgive. Ruth Bell Graham famously said,
"A good marriage is the union between two good
forgivers." We all make mistakes. Yet sometimes those
mistakes hurt the person we love the most — our
spouse. Be generous and forgiving when your spouse
makes a mistake and your spouse will be more quick to
forgive your indiscretions.
5. Thou shalt be kind. We have a mantra in our house:
kind words, soft answers. Think back to how you spoke
to your spouse when you were still dating and aim to
keep that kind communication throughout your entire
marriage.
6. Thou shalt be appreciative. Make a conscious choice
to let go of little annoyances and devote more mental
energy to thinking about all the things you love about
your spouse. Your spouse does a lot for you; let him
know that you are appreciative.
7. Thou shalt be loyal. Adultery is the quickest way to
kill a marriage. Protect your marriage by avoiding the
slippery slope toward infidelity. In our world of
constant contact through cell phones and social media,
keep all your interactions innocent. If you're not sure if
your behavior is appropriate imagine how you would
feel if your spouse was engaging in the same behavior.
8. Thou shalt find balance. Cultivate friendships and
hobbies that complement but are not dependent upon
your marriage. At the same time, spend quality time
with your spouse every day. You'll be a better spouse if
you are a well-rounded person.
9. Thou shalt be honest. It's never OK to lie to your
spouse, even if the lie seems inconsequential at the
time. No good ever came from lying.
10. Thou shalt make decisions together. Avoid major
marital drama by coming up with a game plan for life
as a couple. All major decisions, including jobs, homes,
children, and how to spend money, need to be agreed
upon by both parties. In an equal marriage, both
spouses should feel that their opinion is valuable and
carries weight.
Marriage is not a one-time commitment but rather a
daily choice to love your spouse the best you can. Just
as the original 10 commandments teach us morality,
developing a set of commandments for your marriage
allows you to love your spouse more fully. Sit down
with your spouse and take some time to discuss the
values you honor in your marriage. Agreeing on your
own set of marriage commandments will keep you on
the path to a lasting and fulfilling marriage.
Sent from my BlackBerry® wireless handheld from Glo Mobile.
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