MEET THE WOMAN WITH NO SEXUAL URGE

A 35-year-old woman has told how she has never
felt sexually attracted to men or women.
Julie Sondra Decker from Tampa, Florida, revealed that
she started describing herself as 'non sexual' at the age
of 15 and when she became aware of the term
'asexual', she changed it.
The outgoing blonde says that she's had more offers of
s*x than she 'wants to count' over the years but,
'without the feelings that usually go with that sort of
thing, it's kind of gross.'
The writer, who lives alone in a two-bedroom
apartment, states that she is not interested in dating or
pursuing a domestic partner.
'I have very close friendships but don't want a
significant other. I don't want to find another asexual to
be roommates with.
'As far as I can tell I'll be happy being single my whole
life.'
In a You Tube video, Miss Decker says that as a young
teenager she kissed and cuddled both boys and girls.
But she concluded: 'I never found anything that floated
my boat.'
She says that her family were convinced that she was a
'closet lesbian'.
Before she went to college her mother even took her to
the doctors because she wasn't expressing 'normal'
interest in the opposite s*x.
Given the all-clear she carried on with her studies,
graduating from the University of Florida in 2000 with
a degree in elementary education and psychology.
She said despite there being more awareness about
sexuality today, it still remains largely misunderstood.
She's had male friends try and 'fix' her by kissing her
against her will and many insist that she will 'wake up
one day'.
Since opening up about being asexual on the internet,
via You Tube and her bloc, Miss Decker says that she's
received death threats and been told by several
commentators that she just needs a 'good de filing.'
'When people hear that you're asexual, some take that
as a challenge,' she told the Huffing ton Post.
'We are perceived as not being fully human because
s*xual attraction and s*xual relationships are seen as
something alive, healthy people do.
'They think that you really want s*x but just don't
know it yet. For people who perform corrective r*pe,
they believe that they're just waking us up and that
we'll thank them for it later.'
Miss Decker says that sexuality presents itself in many
forms. Some people, while lacking s*xual attraction to
any gender, may engage in purely romantic
relationships.
However, she defines herself as 'romantic', meaning
she does not have any romantic feelings either.
Professor Bogart, an associate professor at Brock
University in Ontario, Canada, suggests in his book
Understanding Sexuality, that around one per cent of
the world's population – 70million people – are
'asexual.
He believes that this demographic are 'under-studied'
and that they can feel excluded from our 'very
sexuality culture'.
Experts say a certain number of asexual may have
always existed but are only now starting to 'come out'
as society becomes more liberal.
To her 'haters', Miss Decker concludes: 'I'm not
damaged, lonely or in need of a conversion because I'm
not interested [in s*x].'
She hopes to raise awareness about sexuality through
her writing and public speaking.
'[I want] people who feel similarly to know they're
not alone.'
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