7 Sizzling Valentine’s Day Ideas To Wow Your Main Squeeze

Are you letting the daily grind put a damper on your
love life? Time for a refresher course!
Valentine's Day has become so laden with traditions,
expectations, and marketing mania that it's easy to slip
into thought patterns like: "I have to …", "To heck
with it, I'm NOT going to …", "He'd better do …"
and/or "What on earth am I going to do?" All of
which
create angst and effort and resentment and, often,
disappointment; the antithesis of what Valentine's Day
is all about … love! On this holiday, you should be
focused on celebrating and appreciating your love for
each other.
Here are 7 quick attitude adjustments that can help
bring your Valentine's Day experience back around to a
true celebration of love, meanwhile adding some high-
octane fuel to the intimacy, passion and play in your
relationship!
1. It's All About Them: What are you going to do to
express your love for your partner? Somewhere along
the way it seems that Valentine's Day devolved into an
expectation that men express their love to their woman,
but not the other way around. It's a two-way street,
people, use it!
2. Traditionally Creative: Forget the chocolates and
flowers. Or include the chocolates and flowers, but get
creative about how you go about it. How about a gift of
flowers once a month for a year, or a pot of paint-on
body chocolate, or chocolate flowers, or rose-infused
chocolates or flourless chocolate cake!
3. Give Now, Receive Later: Doing all and everything
that you'd like to do on Valentine's Day, with all its
hype and materiality, can be an expensive (and
crowded) proposition. Why not give on Valentine's
Day and plan to receive later?
4. What's Their Love Language? Do you know your
partner's primary love language? Gary Chapman's five
Love Languages (Touch, Gifts, Acts of Service,
Quality Time and Words of Affirmation) are worth
looking up. Showering her with gifts may be nowhere
near as impactful as gifting her with a day away from
all household responsibilities. Showering him with gifts
may be nowhere near as impactful as gifting him with a
long, slow massage. Not that you want to necessarily
exclude the gifts, or the time together, or the
appreciations but, do a little research and create the
most impactful expression possible.
5. Agreements Can Be Sexy: Some of the angst around
Valentine's Day arises from not having jointly
understood expectations; particularly around money,
and all the various hang-ups and triggers we all have on
this topic. If you spend way more on me than I do on
you, am I going to feel special or stingy or inadequate?
Are you going to feel superior, unloved or
embarrassed? And of course there are at least 15 more
possibilities of how either of us could feel but it all
muddies the water of your attempts to express your
love. Think about creating some agreements with your
partner about how much (or min-max limits) you will
each spend. It will allow each of you to relax and focus
on how you really want to express. And "relaxed and
happy" are a big part of feeling sexy!
6.Valentine Was A Saint — You Don't Have To Be:
Saints always get it right, change the world, glide above
it all, ooze love from every pore … or something like
that! Take a chance, try something different, express in
uncomfortable ways (like speaking your detailed
appreciation of your partner in a public setting …), risk
doing it "wrong". Be willing to laugh. Oh, and do ooze
love from every pore — that's a good one!
7. Leave Space to Receive: Plan in place, blinders on,
go, go, go. Whoa! Yes, you want to express your love
vehemently, vocally and voraciously. But remember to
leave space to receive as well. Receive what your
partner has created for you. Receive his/her
appreciation. Receive in the moment feedback and be
willing to adjust course. Receive your own appreciation
for yourself.

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