FOR WOMEN.....7 Things You Should Never Say To Your Husband

Keeping your man happy
can be a challenge.
You've probably heard the phrase "If mom isn't happy,
no one's happy." But an unhappy husband is just as
difficult to handle. As it turns out, there are things we
wives can avoid saying that get under his skin.
1. "We need to talk."
Carter Bailey, a 27-year-old husband from Texas, said
unless you want to trigger your husband's "fight or
flight" response, you're much better off saying what
you need to say without starting with this line.
"Otherwise, you are setting him up to spending every
single second between that sentence and the moment
you talk worrying about what he did wrong or what
went wrong," Bailey said. "If you want to scare him
into an anxiety-ridden day, go ahead, but that's a
cruelty that should be reserved only for the most
heinous criminals."
2. "Are you sure I can't help?"
Bailey said that when your husband tells you, "I got
this," he means, "I got this." Asking him again if you
can help is like saying, "I don't think you can handle
it."
"If you absolutely must offer your services again, say
something like, 'OK, sweetheart, if you need any help,
come get me and I will do whatever I can,'" Bailey
said. "It's emasculating and looks like low confidence
in your man to say, 'Are you sure?'"
3. "Did you do …?"
"If he's trying to rewire the house (and) he's not an
electrician (or worked with it before), and he's
forgotten to turn the breaker off, by Odin's beard, just
say, 'You forgot to turn off the breaker, I'll go turn it
off for you real quick,'" Bailey said. "Don't constantly
nag him about, 'Did you do this… did you do that…?'
He's a man. If he hasn't taken the time to go through
all the steps, he needs to learn the hard way — unless of
course he is working with 120v of potentially heart-
arresting current."
4. "Do you think we're romantic?"
According to Bailey, this line screams, "I don't think
you're romantic anymore." Bailey suggests finding
better ways to encourage your husband to be the
romantic partner he once was when you were dating.
"The joy of receiving flowers or candy or a romantic
date night is just diminished when you overtly make
suggestions about what he should do and when," Bailey
said. If you really want to jump start the romantic
bone, try being the romantic one. See what happens
when your husband receives flowers from you for a
change.
5. "Kids, don't listen to your dad."
Never criticize your husband's parenting in front of the
children.
In researching his book, "Being the Strong Man A
Woman Wants: Timeless wisdom on being a man,"
author Elliott Katz heard men say how important it is
that a woman not criticize her husband's parenting with
the kids around.
"If there's a problem, talk about it privately," Katz
said. "If you criticize him in front of the kids, he will
feel undermined and may withdraw from parenting
responsibilities — and you'll feel like a single parent."
6. "Would I marry you again? Does lightning strike
twice in the same place?"
Don't criticize your husband in front of friends, even
jokingly, Katz said. It won't motivate him to change. It
hurts and will turn him against you in other ways.
7. "I should have married rich."
If your husband is working hard and doing his best to
earn a living, don't criticize his ability to provide for
the family. Not only is it hurtful, he may wish he had
found someone more supportive, Katz said
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