4 Things Singles Should Work on When Preparing for Marriage

We are now in a New Year, and
many of us who are single may have it on our list to be
in a relationship or to marry this year. This is an
awesome goal to have, but are we ready for a
relationship or for marriage? Here are a few things we
should consider working on to ensure we are ready for
a new relationship or a new marriage.
1.
Become Emotionally Available
There are many singles I've met who may have a lot
going for them (career, finances, etc.), but emotionally
they are unavailable. This may be due to unresolved
hurt from past relationships, or being emotionally
attached to someone that we are not in a relationship
with; or we mistrust others so we build walls up around
our hearts. For us to be able to enter healthy
relationships and have them remain solid and grow, we
must be willing to work through our emotional barriers.
Whether it's forgiving an ex for hurting us (physically
or emotionally), or resolving negative relationships
with parents, we must decide to work towards
emotional healing. Releasing others that have yet to
make a commitment to us is also something that many
of us need to do. We may need to consult a mental
health professional for help in this area.
2. Make Sure You're Physically Prepared for a
Relationship
With an abundance of health food stores, food
processors for smoothies, gyms and so on, we should be
the healthiest people around. Of course this is not the
case for many of us, so we have work to do. Physical
activity is recommended at least 5 times a week, with 5
servings of fruit and veggies every day and plenty of
water. Sleeping for at least 6 hours should also be a
goal to work towards. Don't ignore annual checkups, as
this is the best way to keep major illnesses in check. If
unusual symptoms appear, contact a medical
professional immediately. We need to be healthy and
more prepared to manage a new relationship when it
comes our way.
3. Get Your Finances in Order
While we are working on our emotional health and
physical health, our finances must also be considered.
Eliminating personal debt is definitely something that
your future spouse will appreciate! Have a plan to get
debt-free. Reduce excessive spending on eating out,
electronics or in any other category that can be
downsized so that additional funds will be available to
eliminate debt faster. The method of paying off the
smallest debt (or the debt with the highest interest rate)
works well, as long as you plan to add your newly
available money towards other debt to get it paid off
faster. Your future spouse will appreciate your plan of
action as you make the effort to reduce unnecessary
spending and gain control of your finances. Also
remember to save at least 10% of your income to be
prepared for unplanned emergencies or unemployment.
Order free copies of your credit report annually to keep
up with your debt elimination progress and to check for
fraud.
4. Don't Neglect Your Spiritual Well Being
As a Christian, I believe in connecting with God
regularly through prayer and worship, and I typically
listen to the Bible on my Bible app. Attending services
and participating in ministry opportunities also helps to
build my spirit. Spiritual health is sometimes ignored or
minimized, but we must have a solid foundation on
which to build our lives. Strong spiritual health also
guides us, much like a compass, toward making better
emotional, financial and health-related choices.
Push yourself to work towards one of the 4 goals each
week, and before long you will be well on your way in
preparing for a new relationship or marriage. I wish all
of you a very prosperous year, and all the best in your
pursuits as you prepare for the life you desire.
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